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January 15, 2012

My Best Friends are Failures

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Written by: Tony McCollum

Perhaps it’s just me but I find it extremely difficult to develop any deep friendships with people that haven’t failed, or won’t admit that they’ve failed at some point in their lives.

When people come across as a “never failed” it makes the relationship inherently strained.  It starts to feel like a game of one-upmanship instead of a friendship.  It seems as if the never faileds are trying to be superior or, at least, trying to make others feel slightly inferior.  In that climate, genuine relationships seldom flourish.

The truth is that everyone has failed in some big or small way.  People who own their failures are infinitely more genuine, and that authenticity in a relationship is incredibly magnetic.  People desperately want to be around other people that are real.  They want to build relationships with others who admit they’ve failed and will allow them to do the same.

People who have really failed, and own it, are some of the best friends you could ever hope to have.

About the Author

Tony McCollum
I'm the senior pastor of Fusion Church. I've been in the ministry for over 20 years. I'm also the founder of many sites such as, and Most importantly, I like ice cream.



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